My oldest daughter lost another tooth yesterday morning! She has been waiting for this sucker to come out for weeks now. When it finally did, the look of wonder on her face was priceless. But then she came home from kindergarten and this conversation happened:
A: "Mommy, is the tooth fairy just make believe?"
Me: (quickly imagines self wringing the neck of the little kid who spoiled all the tooth fairy goodness for my 5 year old.) "What??? Who told you that?"
A: "No one told me. The computer lab did."
Me: "Huh?"
A: "We were taking a test on the computer and I needed to drag all the make believe things into the castle, and there was a fairy there."
I could nearly see the forked road right there before me. Take the road of reality? Or keep on down the one of imagination and dreams?
I decided to talk about imagination, and believing in the things we can't see, and how much more fun life is when we can do that, etc... The thing is, my 5 year old really, REALLY wanted to believe in the tooth fairy. I could see the relief in her face when I told her that it was okay to have fun and believe in fairies and in lots of things she can't see.
So, the question is, am I doing her a disservice by encouraging her to believe in something she will inevitably find out really *is* make believe? Or would the disservice be *not* encouraging her to believe it? I think it's a fine, very tenuous line.
But this morning when A woke up and found a dollar and some gum, she shouted with such excitement that I knew, at least for the moment, I'd made the right choice.
